why telling a 'NO', is important!

Never say 'maybe', when you meant a 'no',
It may not be easy, but the clarity of a 'no',
is far reaching than you may fathom..

a 'no', to a parent, who might be ambitious for you,
in ways you may never be for yourself..
for, we cannot live our lives through others,
even if they are, our children, an extension of our identity..

a 'no', to a sibling, maybe in love,
but dictate a path, not akin to our own ideals..
for everybody defines their sense of happiness..
a sense of stability, from their own experiences..
and unique perceptions of it..

a 'no', to a friend, who may define friendship,
as blind loyalty or conformation of their social norms..
for who else, we find reasonable or enjoyable..
or what we deem acceptable,
has nothing to do with the people we already chose to cherish..

a 'no', to a colleague, who estimates what is best for us..
for success and how we reach of what we see it as..
the definition of whats moral and whats bendable..
is as diverse as the skin we come in..
one.. does not fit all..

a 'no', to a lover, who loves us in parts..
maybe, for the best of what we can offer..
because a state of acceptance, is not just in the good times..
of how far and high, you are willing to go..
but for a sense of respect that you display in your restraint,
in your resilience and magnanimity as a human being..

a 'no', to your confidant,
in whom we might have shared our deepest, darkest hours..
if they try to control you, or deem whats right for you..
or use any information against you..
for emotional support is just that..
it does not come with a privilege of oversight..
advice is not the same as management..
its a choice to be respectfully made..
anybody who fails to see how far you have come..
how strong you have grown through your trials..
seeks to handle you, rather than..
just be a confidant, deserves a resounding, 'no'..

telling 'no', is sometimes more of an assertion than a, 'yes'..
to be true to who you are and to honor your own journey in life..
to never consciously settle into the habits of the past..
to practice the lessons we learnt,
and be a better person,
firstly for yourself,
and then, for those around you,
it is important, to speak clarity,
and disagree, diverge, debate, question,
what ever is that, that you dint buy into..

it is this consistent practice of honesty..
that may well enable lasting solutions,
to many of our dis-accords..
and help pave a path of a true equilibrium,
that may work for more than just ourselves..

Victims of Love

Unsuspecting Victims, us all,
of manipulative Friendships and compromising tales of Love..
Led on to believe, to hope, equally cherish,
false narratives of those playing a sort of game,
that we never knew existed..

The power of persuasion and extravagant promises,
lead our investments..

In building a dream of a better future, of companionship and peace,
there is a certain surrender of the soul..
Poetic or pathetic, only time does tell..
the deeds, the abuse, done and dealt with,
never echoing your own ambitions..
questioning your identity and tearing at it, all the while..


To be in toxic relationships,
is to understand how difficult it is,
to preserve your sanity and
a sort of innocence in the face of constant betrayal..

I gather though, that vengeance and a sense of weakness,
will never let you heal..
a state of closure is paramount..
a sense of justice may also be important..
but it is never healthy to stay a 'Victim'..
your sense of morality, largely, transpires from your own pain..
the longer one stays in this heightened state of defensive vulnerability,
it fuels into the cycle of 'being a victim', again,
to be cautious is, yes, a progress,
but to prefer isolation and be suspicious of,
every new experience does not help the grief.. or the growth thereof..

A sense of accountability on self is as important,
as figuring out what went wrong,
and who is not trustworthy..
wisdom comes from experiences,
but it is important to make a habit of implementing,
the new found knowledge..
obsessive behavior only blinds us to rationality..

Of the fall and rise through Life,
it is imperative to learn,
to be our own guardians, of our mind and our body..
If anything, it reduces the probability of a shock,
at the next instance of hypocrisy..

For this world, is filled with polarizing people,
some entitled, greedy, ignorant
and some are tragically plain and cruel..
we cannot change every sadistic person we encounter,
in some instances, we may be the ones,
who are prejudiced and intolerant..

Therefore, its only wise to mold our own social circles..
never encourage somebody who judges,
intimidates, shades or makes you feel unsafe..
give people second chances,
when they make you feel positive and inspired to grow..

To be consumed by fear is to continue to fail yourself.
Its hard enough to try and not repeat our mistakes,
without the overbearing innuendos of dignity,
definitions of success and happiness.
Therefore a certain sense of lightheartedness is helpful.
Do not take yourself or others too seriously..
Sense of purity and social honor are very perceptive things..
your social structure and how you relate to it,
should never impede your personal prosperity,
or forgiveness and redemption for yourself.

Concepts of Friendships and Love are never unconditional or eternal,
Life itself is finite, people change, feelings change and it is alright!
a sense of responsibility and respect, however endures..
these are the very traits seldom coincidental with romanticism..

So, it takes courage,
to cherish the good things while they last,
and be emotionally available for good things to happen in the first place..
If there ever is a next time, for bad things to happen,
know that, in a very twisted way, it is disappointing, but quite normal,
as much as one would want to..
you cannot calculate every single move around you,
Life is to actually Live,
as you age, you stumble less,
but there may be those rare times, that you do..
and then, you get to tailor your responses,
armored with your developing awareness of social acumen,
to suit, your best interests, in a way,
that doesn't take away from your journey of self worth.

There is content in knowing that we all have,
some level of control in a sort of chaos,
with weighing our own actions and words..
with being the observant sage, for yourself,
and trying to discourse another route away from,
the cycle of self destruction and pity